noodle

^ Because teenagers think that they should have, would have, could have control of everything.
They think that they can keep people from doing things.
Their ego development isn't complete, they still think that the universe revolves around them.
It's just a thing. It's how it is. As an adult we learn how to move past that and come to terms with the fact that everyone has free will and we are not responsible for others' actions or choices when it comes down to it. They have information or presented with a choice... they act, react, or refuse to act given the input of others.
We really don't have the power over others that we think we do.
Unless you've got some wikked kool-aide.

It takes the recognition that WE have free will, Everyone Else has free will.
The freedom to fuck up, the freedom to act, the freedom to ignore our dumbasses... it takes time to learn it. And you have to believe it. Often with help from other. MANY times with the help of others. But when it comes down to it, relieving yourself of the responsibility and/or forgiving yourself for your own free will and a choice you may not agree with any longer is crucial.

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