I'm really flabbergasted that nobody else here is completely shocked by the abuse this woman has been through.
I mean, I'm a callous baby-killing asshole and even I'm a little taken aback. This reads like the script to a
Lifetime movie.
KatyG, I'm going to repost your list and chop it up with text styles. Your past is a good indicator of your future. It's been my experience that people don't change, especially as far as the type of people they're with in long term relationships. Straight up: This guy used and abused you for a long time.
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- Girl meets boy
- Get along, good times, nice sex, deep connection
- Boy reveals used to be a pothead
- Goes back to it
- Starts behaving like a dick
- Break up - boy kisses another girl in front of girl to get back at girl because a year before they got together girl had kissed one of his acquaintances
- Get back
- Girl gets pregnant - boy pushes for termination
- Girls goes through with it, boy is shitty at supporting her emotionally (as pothead)
- Break ups (numerous)
- Boy starts busting up flat during fights etc
- Breaks (numerous)
- Break of 5 months after boy hits girl, leaves girl on holiday alone
- Get back together after boy buys house, seems to have settled a bit, quit weed, getting straight
- Boy goes right back to being unreliable, moody, antisocial (except when they break up he's always out) and being aggressive and pothead and doesn't really seem to want her in his life much at all
- Girl gives boy ultimatum to stop
- Boy chooses weed
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We are the company we keep. You chose to maintain a relationship with a violent drug-abusing dick that has absolutely no redeeming qualities. You gave him a million chances to fuck you over again and he took every single one. Relationships aren't supposed to be like running the fucking gauntlet.
He uses drugs to the point that it cripples his life. He has physically assaulted you.
Others here will tell you to get a new haircut. I'm telling you to go get counseling.
If not, you're going to find yourself in a relationship with another guy like this.
There are stacks of research as high as my shoulder. And I've seen it a lot.
I've studied domestic abuse/neglect/violence situations. You were in one.