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Plan9 · 04-02-2011, 09:53 PM

Cadre, I apologize if you misconstrued my previous post as flaming. I assure you that was not my intent in this thread.

I'm simply replying to the things you've said in this thread. I'm not posting any assumptions about you here or anything.

My comments are colorful and tasteless, sure... but I don't dip into personal attacks. That's like the Special Olympics.

What I find ridiculous is someone that obviously has a learned perspective on the topic turning their nose up here.

I still love this forum and it saddens me to see "ye olde timers" acting like Lord Eden's imaginary In Crowd (TM).

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For the OP, one of my experiences:

I've had a FWB situation that worked because both of us were between serious relationships and life changes (moves/jobs/college). She had been a friend for a while; we'd met at a local super-campy horror movie get-together. Eventually we got to talking online one night about the mutual lack of sex in our lives and had the FWB talk. It was weird how totally casual the atmosphere was... show up and talk about our day like coworkers. Eat takeout and watch TeeVee. There was always a distinct pause right before the "Alright, let's do this thing!" moment. Like maybe we were going to roll up our sleeves and assemble Ikea furniture or do yard work together. The sex was distinctly different than romantic relationship sex. It was... well, like going to the gym with a opposite sex workout partner. A good sweaty physical release with someone you were friendly with but didn't have the same hang-ups around. Maybe it's just me, but I find it a lot easier to therapy-fuck someone when I don't have to wake up next to them the next day. No justification required.

It works for some people. You just have to be good friends with the person and have no desire to go further. And the same for them.

As with any intimate relationship, communication is crucial. Understand expectations. Use safe sex. Fuck like rabid werewolves.

04-02-2011, 09:53 PM	#21 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Cadre, I apologize if you misconstrued my previous post as flaming. I assure you that was not my intent in this thread. I'm simply replying to the things you've said in this thread. I'm not posting any assumptions about you here or anything. My comments are colorful and tasteless, sure... but I don't dip into personal attacks. That's like the Special Olympics. What I find ridiculous is someone that obviously has a learned perspective on the topic turning their nose up here. I still love this forum and it saddens me to see "ye olde timers" acting like Lord Eden's imaginary In Crowd (TM). ... For the OP, one of my experiences: I've had a FWB situation that worked because both of us were between serious relationships and life changes (moves/jobs/college). She had been a friend for a while; we'd met at a local super-campy horror movie get-together. Eventually we got to talking online one night about the mutual lack of sex in our lives and had the FWB talk. It was weird how totally casual the atmosphere was... show up and talk about our day like coworkers. Eat takeout and watch TeeVee. There was always a distinct pause right before the "Alright, let's do this thing!" moment. Like maybe we were going to roll up our sleeves and assemble Ikea furniture or do yard work together. The sex was distinctly different than romantic relationship sex. It was... well, like going to the gym with a opposite sex workout partner. A good sweaty physical release with someone you were friendly with but didn't have the same hang-ups around. Maybe it's just me, but I find it a lot easier to therapy-fuck someone when I don't have to wake up next to them the next day. No justification required. It works for some people. You just have to be good friends with the person and have no desire to go further. And the same for them. As with any intimate relationship, communication is crucial. Understand expectations. Use safe sex. Fuck like rabid werewolves. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake." Last edited by Plan9; 04-02-2011 at 10:18 PM..