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Originally Posted by PhD
What would you do in a near sexless marriage where you have tried everything? The woman just isn't that sexual - full stop.
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What is defined by "sexless?" If you mean that as a hyperbolic euphemism for something like you want it several times a week, minimum, and she wants it every other week, that's an issue, but if the relationship is stellar in every other way, it might be worth just resigning yourself to frequent masturbation and biweekly sex. But if you really mean literally sexless, on the order of your wife is interested only a few times a year, that's a serious obstacle, no matter how great the relationship might be otherwise.
I have been in a number of long-term relationships where my partner had a slightly lower sex drive than I did, and I made my peace with it. But I have to be honest, if I found myself married to someone who simply was not interested in sex, and could only muster up the willingness to do it a couple of times a year, I would probably insist on sex therapy for her/us, or else end the marriage. I personally could not live my life with basically no sex forever; that is just something I am unable to do. You might be different. You might have different balances you can adjust in your life. But for me, that would be a dealbreaker.