chelle21689

I was with my ex for 5 1/2 years and he was a big talker while I am more of a listener. I have learned to voice my opinion a lot more since I've dated him though. I think that people that talk a lot bring that part out of me but also sometimes I get so bored hearing that person ramble on while I listen for several minutes without being able to say much.

I met a guy last month and he is the complete opposite of my ex. He's a lot more laid-back, sensitive, and reserved. He does try to initiate conversation, keep it going, and all that but he doesn't give me all his thoughts and feelings on a subject. He'll tell me what he thinks but doesn't elaborate and it's hard for him.

I notice when I'm with his friends, they're all very loud and talkative. He'll mostly listen and make comments. Even I talk a lot more to his friends than him. We went out Friday night for the first time alone instead of a group and we seem to hit it off and have a blast...talking non stop and joking. Went out again the next night Saturday and he was reserved and there were some silences.

I usually don't have a problem talking to people at all. I don't know why with him sometimes it is hard. I don't know if he is scared to voice his thoughts and opinions or what? You know how some people can go on about how much they hate or love something...I mean we both like the same music, food, travel, adventure, and come from the same background. I've never dated anyone but ONE guy...so this is a very very new experience to me.

I keep wondering if it's just how he is with people or if it's just US. Because if it's just how he is with people then I'd be fine but by us not being able to talk a lot non stop about various subjects then I'm worried it means we aren't going to work. We've been talking every night for about an hour or two for a month now. We can carry on conversations but it's not DEEP. He once tried bringing up my ex and I tried asking about his afterward and he was very vague. It was like he had all these thoughts but didn't say much. I was like "Don't be afraid to tell me what you're thinking" and he said "I really don't have anything else to say though"

Everything else about him is perfect though. I know I'm really attracted and I feel that he is getting attached by his actions. Oh and the funny thing is he told me a few times how much he likes talking to me and really enjoys it. Like I said, if this is how he is with past gfs then I'm fine with it but I'm not entirely sure how he was with them.

We have the same views and like the same things but I can't get him to go on and on about it. It can't be that we both have too much in common on what we believe in because my ex and I were still able to have conversations.