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ill be quite honest and say that ive made more friends here at TFP in the last 6 years than in the last 4 years having moved countries. i'm 33.
the expat community here is fickle, and one day someone is here, and within a week they can be gone. People come and go, and its hard to become attached to someone you've known for a few months, weeks or days. facebook helps, but its not the same as having someone in the flesh you can confide in.
Ive made 3 really good friends in real life here in Dubai ( all expats), the rest of the people are just people that move in and out of your life. They stop and rest under your shade for a while, before they move on in their life. sometimes you dont know if it's you that is seeking their shade or vice versa.
i think ive also become picky with my friends the last few years and i dont associate with people i dont like or feel comfortable with. sure we can have a chat, but i see those sort of people once every while. i think i learnt that poisonous people that are out to make a point and hurt you are not worth my time or effort, so ive learnt to be wary and keep away from strangers. that may be a bad thing to meet new friends, but im also comfortable with the 'quota' that ive currently got. it's 'manageable'.
Ultimately, I find solace in my own loneliness. it gives me time to think things through and lets me pick and choose the people i want in my life. But at some point when i feel i need to speak to someone there always is someone i can count on either here or back home.
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