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Plus one for what Dlish said.
Document everything carefully. At some point, you are going to have to tell this guy that you want him to leave you alone, and not to contact you any further. On the unfortunately all-too-likely chance that he refuses, you are going to need to take action. The more decisive the better. And nothing greases the wheels for a nice quick restraining order better than documentation.
Look, I sympathize: I am not a huge fan of unpleasant confrontation. When the occasion calls for it, I can be a master of the evasion, the diplomatic exit, or the out-and-out avoidance dance. But I also sleep with a broadsword by my bed. There is a line between "unpleasant confrontation" and "If you come near me, I will end you." Just be sure that you are aggressively willing to set boundaries, because believe me, you want to be the one setting the boundaries, not having the boundaries set for you by some psycho schmuck-face. Confrontation sucks, but psychotic exes are like unexploded bombs-- they don't get safer by being ignored or tiptoed aroud, they get safer by someone coming and taking them away.
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Dull sublunary lovers love,
Whose soul is sense, cannot admit
Absence, because it doth remove
That thing which elemented it.
(From "A Valediction: Forbidding Mourning" by John Donne)
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