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Thank you all for your replies. and I mean all. Some things are difficult to hear, but are necessary to be told. I feel more prepared to stand up to him, if and when the fight happens. It is not a family member, or a current relationship. It is a past relationship that won't let go. He has not been physically abusive to me, but definitely verbally. I thought I had learned from my past about people like this and I thought I was strong enough to stand up to it. I am not as strong as I thought, but stronger than I was in the past.
His question was a simple one. Just wanted lunch. But I am not comfortable with that after all that has happened between us. Because of his verbal abuse, it scared me to say no. But this time I did say no (after reading the replies here). With no reason given. His reply was that he was going to keep asking. I will keep saying no. Eventually, it will get easier, right? He has, in the past, made every thing I do and say into something more than it is, demanding answers to more and more questions, and when he does not get the answer he wants, he starts being mean. He demands that I give him one word answers to his questions, but I can't. It usually leads to him demanding I tell him if I want him to leave me alone. I know that if I tell him to leave me alone, he won't and it will get worse. Sometimes I do fear that it will become physical, but maybe that is just my paranoia. I have started to ignore is texts (working on blocking them completely) and only reply to his work related IM's at work. I expect to get a nasty email from him soon, that is just the way he is. Hopefully, at that point, I will be ready to really stand my ground with him.
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