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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
If you are both pretty involved in the circle of friends, he may be reluctant to start something up with you because, if it doesn't work out, he will lose some of his friends too. Friends always have to pick sides in these situations. So, he's probably making damn sure this has the potential to be a good, long-term relationship before risking that much.
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Originally Posted by Cimarron29414
...and when the relationship ends bitterly after two months...and the friends want to do a get together and chelle says, "I'm not going if <mystery guy> is going," like I said, that friend has to decide to go with the original plans and mystery guy, or do something else with chelle. Which is why many are cautious and don't want to risk dicking up the karma of a circle of friends by dating within the circle.
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Hey, I'm not saying it's easy, but I was going off the finality of the wording of your post. I've seen very messy break ups where both parties were in the same friendship group and no one took sides and no one lost friends. It also depends on the nature of break up, of course.
But I know for a fact that people can be civil and mature and the dynamic of the group doesn't have to change much. It comes down to individual attitudes and peoples ability to get over themselves, really. Having said that though, I know damn well it isn't easy and it takes a lot of strength at times. It will always come down to what's most important to those involved.