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Anonymous Member · 03-14-2011, 10:51 AM

On the whole it is perhaps pointless for me to use the anon option as due to inarticulate style and my own version of logic it seems always obvious to everyone who I am anyway, but I suppose it might be possible to just go along with this.

So, on a recentnight I went for some drinks for a mates birthday. While there, I met someone. Lets just say a friend of a friend. Or more accurately one might say a relation of a friend. From my friends view of I understand her to be unreliable, over dramatic, selfish, irresponsible, etc. (they dont get along)

My own biased view having known her a short time is that she is certainly over dramatic, and at least self involved if not selfish. I am not being elitist or anything, I realise I am no catch - I'm fat, scar faced, gloomy, insecure, have little self esteem, etc etc...

Anyway, to get back to the matter - there are many reasons that I wouldnt date this person

ie

She lives more than 100 miles away
We probably arent compatible: She would find me frustrating due to my insular nature, I would find her annying because of her overly extrovert one.
The "mutual friend" connection

But with one thing and another, on Saturday night things happened and basically this was a sexual experience really unlike anything I have ever had, actually beyond anything I ever could imagine of. I am not going to go into details or try to come over as some kind of a pervert, of course nothing with was filthy or revolting happened. I really dont think it is necessary to go into the details anyway to consider this question.

I would just say that physically, and the excitement of the... events... was pretty incredible. I mean, physically my reaction was the same but more than I have ever had. I dont think any more details are necessary. I think that it was enjoyable also for her, she carried on as if it was anyway.
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Is it right to have a relationship that can be based only on sex?

Should you attempt to make a normal relationship based on only incredible sexual experience if you just arent the kind of people who will get on on an emotional/normal life level?

Or can you openly just be "mates" and have also sex? Do real people do things like this? Is it possible to be completely unconnected from your feelings which it is not just a one night thing?

I know in TV shows or films there are ideas like "fuck buddies", but I am talking about real events really happening, not made up TV shows.

On the one hand it seems like I should just go for it.

On the other hand, it seems like also I should do this, but that it will surely end in bad feelings.

03-14-2011, 10:51 AM	#1 (permalink)
Anonymous Member Addict	on the possibility of an ONGOING sex relationship with someone you dont want to date On the whole it is perhaps pointless for me to use the anon option as due to inarticulate style and my own version of logic it seems always obvious to everyone who I am anyway, but I suppose it might be possible to just go along with this. So, on a recentnight I went for some drinks for a mates birthday. While there, I met someone. Lets just say a friend of a friend. Or more accurately one might say a relation of a friend. From my friends view of I understand her to be unreliable, over dramatic, selfish, irresponsible, etc. (they dont get along) My own biased view having known her a short time is that she is certainly over dramatic, and at least self involved if not selfish. I am not being elitist or anything, I realise I am no catch - I'm fat, scar faced, gloomy, insecure, have little self esteem, etc etc... Anyway, to get back to the matter - there are many reasons that I wouldnt date this person ie She lives more than 100 miles away We probably arent compatible: She would find me frustrating due to my insular nature, I would find her annying because of her overly extrovert one. The "mutual friend" connection But with one thing and another, on Saturday night things happened and basically this was a sexual experience really unlike anything I have ever had, actually beyond anything I ever could imagine of. I am not going to go into details or try to come over as some kind of a pervert, of course nothing with was filthy or revolting happened. I really dont think it is necessary to go into the details anyway to consider this question. I would just say that physically, and the excitement of the... events... was pretty incredible. I mean, physically my reaction was the same but more than I have ever had. I dont think any more details are necessary. I think that it was enjoyable also for her, she carried on as if it was anyway. _ Is it right to have a relationship that can be based only on sex? Should you attempt to make a normal relationship based on only incredible sexual experience if you just arent the kind of people who will get on on an emotional/normal life level? Or can you openly just be "mates" and have also sex? Do real people do things like this? Is it possible to be completely unconnected from your feelings which it is not just a one night thing? I know in TV shows or films there are ideas like "fuck buddies", but I am talking about real events really happening, not made up TV shows. On the one hand it seems like I should just go for it. On the other hand, it seems like also I should do this, but that it will surely end in bad feelings.