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pan6467 · 03-14-2011, 12:15 AM

I think your post gives you your answer. You may not like the answer though. You say "I think I really like him" and "I think I'm over my ex."

If you just think then he is probably respecting you. If you KNOW you like him and tell him then things may change. It's quite possible that you are giving mixed signals. Such as, do you speak of your ex much around him, do you try to show that you are open to his affections, do you talk about other guys, etc?

Being a guy and putting yourself and emotions out there without having any idea if they are shared is tough. Noone likes rejection. So yes, you may have to make the first move. But in doing so be careful that you just don't "think you like him and are over your ex" KNOW that you like him and are over your ex.

He just may feel he is that "rebound guy" and is too scared to do anything or say anything. If he is going out with you and friends, that makes a nice buffer zone.

Just my opinion, what do I know....lol. Been married and divorced twice in the last 7 years. One I love to this day it just didn't work, the other..... wellll......... I THOUGHT it was real and thought I was over another but as we walked down that aisle I knew it was a matter of time that wasn't fair to her or me.

03-14-2011, 12:15 AM	#3 (permalink)
pan6467 Lennonite Priest Location: Mansfield, Ohio USA	I think your post gives you your answer. You may not like the answer though. You say "I think I really like him" and "I think I'm over my ex." If you just think then he is probably respecting you. If you KNOW you like him and tell him then things may change. It's quite possible that you are giving mixed signals. Such as, do you speak of your ex much around him, do you try to show that you are open to his affections, do you talk about other guys, etc? Being a guy and putting yourself and emotions out there without having any idea if they are shared is tough. Noone likes rejection. So yes, you may have to make the first move. But in doing so be careful that you just don't "think you like him and are over your ex" KNOW that you like him and are over your ex. He just may feel he is that "rebound guy" and is too scared to do anything or say anything. If he is going out with you and friends, that makes a nice buffer zone. Just my opinion, what do I know....lol. Been married and divorced twice in the last 7 years. One I love to this day it just didn't work, the other..... wellll......... I THOUGHT it was real and thought I was over another but as we walked down that aisle I knew it was a matter of time that wasn't fair to her or me. __________________ I just love people who use the excuse "I use/do this because I LOVE the feeling/joy/happiness it brings me" and expect you to be ok with that as you watch them destroy their life blindly following. My response is, "I like to put forks in an eletrical socket, just LOVE that feeling, can't ever get enough of it, so will you let me put this copper fork in that electric socket?"