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ugly on the outside? yes.
ugly on the inside? never.
I don't believe in absolutes, will, but I do believe that the experience of sex is significantly different for men and women in an emotional sense. Particularly when it comes to sex outside of a relationship. Now, I know there are women out there whose own experience defies that observation. And I'm not inclined to say that one attitude is better than the other. But for myself, I need to feel an intimate connection with someone to have sex with them.
That's not to say that I can't readily imagine that intimate connection happening spontaneously with someone I just met or someone whom I know but never considered the possibility of sex with before. It could happen, but it's not nearly as likely as the possibility that I could walk out the door tonight and find someone willing to have sex with me that I feel no connection with. Unfortunately or not, the latter holds no interest for me. I can get the release on my own, with no problem. And without the awkwardness of being in someone's house afterwards naked and not sure if it's rude to leave right away or not.
I guess there is a part of me that is permanently dysfunctional when it comes to casual sex. I've had very little experience with it.
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Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus
PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce
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