bagatelle

I was talking to an online acquaintance.

I told him, I've noticed myself being drawn to men, who talk in calm voice. My husband has a tendency to snap or shout, I dislike this very much. I understand that he sometimes has a lot of stress, but it's more in his nature to do so. I compare my husband to men in my side of the family - my father and uncle, brothers, late grandfather - they all have similar calm note in voice and I don't ever recall them shouting, even them raising their voice a little was not unpleasant to hear.

Last year, after being home for several years, I got back to work and have seen more people daily since then. I made this remark to my online friend, that I find men with calm voice more attractive lately. His respond was, that maybe I need an analysis, if that really is the case.

I don't think this was jokingly said from his part. This person has no degree in psychology, that I know of, he apparently sees a therapist himself and may study something by his own, but yet that statement left me puzzled.

Not to ponder the discussion itself much, I would like to post this to ask, if there is something in psychology that could give him grounds to say so.

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