Hello everyone,
So what I'm reading is that a chunk of this comes down to communicating the specifics of what is happening. This poses a big problem, as my wife doesn't like to talk about sex at all. It's something that, as she puts it, happens in the bedroom at night and is not suppose to be talked about, etc. Granted it has happened outside the bedroom and not at night, but let's say, for example, we had just finished some great sex and are now going to sleep. If I make a comment about how great it was, or something we did during it, after it, she'll get all upset and ask me why do we need to talk about it, that ruins it, etc.
As I mentioned prior, we have an issue with frequency. This is a big enough issue that we talk/argue about it a lot. So, indirectly, we are taking about sex and when we do even that, it upsets her as it is just 'suppose to happen without planning, effort', etc. Seems that she feels that it should be more along the lines of what you see in the Soap Operas where they just fall into an embrace and the music swells appropriately
So I have to admit after reading everyone's advice about bringing this up with her in detail I am very apprehensive about doing so as from past experience it backfires BADLY when I do and results in LESS sex. Dunno...
