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It's all about control to her. She wants to be told what to do, but only what she wants to be told what to do. (Does that make sense?) If she says tell me to do this or that, she is still in control. If she is simply following your directions she is not in control. So, while she gets off on the submissiveness of her actions she still needs to maintain the control of the situation.
There is a fine line between enjoying the submissive acts and letting go mentally. Some people just can't go there in their mind but still enjoy the excitement of the feelings, or the taboo of it. You'll have to let her lead, in a sense she is not really subbing but topping from the bottom.
Tell her how much you enjoy doing those things for her and ask her to give you directions. Maybe even have her write out ahead of time some things she would like you to do or say, or a scene she would like to role play that way she's still in control because she's made the choices herself.
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Never make someone a priority in your life when you are just an option in theirs - Author Unknown
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