Hbombaby, you're not an idiot for not seeing or knowing what he was up to. How were you to know when doing so well at hiding it?
A good friend of mine was in a very long relationship and for the last 4 years of that relationship her partner was addicted to ice and she had no freaking idea. She was too busy being paranoid about other stuff and he was an expert liar.
What your boyfriend did was completely out of line, no questions there, but it takes real balls to fess up to all of that knowing that in doing so his very worst fears could be realised. It sounds to me like he's been ill for a while, and now he's getting the help and treatment he needs to be healthy again.
I do think you need to communicate your anxieties with him though, if you want this relationship to keep going from here you're both going to need to be brutally honest about a lot of things.
Good luck with it all though, I hope things work out best for you and that he gets better.
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