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Old 02-11-2011, 04:23 PM   #4 (permalink)
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This is the first girl that has pulled this on me, so never had to deal with it. Being up front has always helped. Maybe I have been lucky so far?

Like I said, I am upfront about how I am and what I need.

I am just try'n to see if the ladies here can see something I'm missing? Not fair to her for me to stay and keep feeling this way, won't help things any. Also not fair for me to feel this way and just not be happy.

The B.J. thing is just one of the issues we talked about when we first started hanging out/dating. She was all about it then - talked the talk and all that.

We have talked about things and she will say "I need this or that" - I do what she wants but things just don't change and I'm beginning to think its just being selfish ........(one thing she said while hanging out was "I used to be a selfish lover but not any more" .... kinda through up red flags but I just took her word on that.

She is fine with me going down on her 5 - 6 times a week and doing what she likes, its when I try to notion for what I want, things just kinda end at that point.

I'm pretty sure I just need to find someone who is more compatible with my likes but I do love her and have become attached to her kid also - makes things hard to just say goodbye.

Thers just no way I'm going to be happy taking care of myself 8 times a week and then being lucky to have "regular" sex 1 or 2 times a week - if I'm lucky.

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Originally Posted by amonkie View Post
The only person responsible for fulfilling your sexual cravings and needs is you. Trying to tell her whatever she wants is secondary as long as she is giving you the things you want is about the most surefire way to quelch any desire that I can think of.
We have talked and its not like I say "do this or I can't be with you", I also don't just tell her what she wants to hear - I listen to her, try to do what she needs.
I have put her needs ahead of mine many times, we talk about things, seem to come to understandings why we feel the way we do and then .... nothing.

Either I am missing something or she is still selfish/never was into anything we talked about - just told me what I wanted to hear, and there is nothing I can do to change that.
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