So lets say that in the beginning of a releationship you let the lady know that you have a high sex drive and like a good bit of the kinky stuff and like the kinky stuff a lot. BlowJobs, oral, quickies, long and dragged out type of sex - she agrees say'n "Thats great, we'll make a great match!". "I love to give road head" was another comment she made (great, I like it too
)
Now, the whole point in say'n that wasn't to pound my chest like some God or something, only said it because I do like it, alot and kinky. I need a lady who likes the same.
Its been over a year 4months and she is not like that at all. She is like a once a week person, doesn't really care for kinky stuff, no blow job during car rides or other times. I eat her all the time, well use to but it has become no fun because theres never a return on the favor. Gone from 5 times a week to maybe 1 a week, if I'm lucky!
Seems she is tired, kid needs stuff, stressed over work, not in the mood, just not feeling it, I bother her too much and kill the mood/ I don't go after her enough and she doesn't feel wanted, I always want it, I talk too much about it, I text too much, she is sick, too much going on ...... tons of excuses.
**** I have done all the dishes, made dinners, done the clothes, bunch of other stuff to get rid of as much stress as possible for her. I would do this for over a month at a time. Even had it so her kid would leave her alone and she got an hour of total alone time when she got home (includes from me also!) This didn't seem to help, just more excuses!******
I bought a good amount of panties/oils/whips and such. We used them maybe 3 times and thats it. She wore the panties out with her girl date nights, then we used them! Not say'n she is cheating, she could be, but nothing raises red flags about that issue.
Recently bought a TENS unit (couple hundred bucks!) and was hoping that would get her going. She tried it, said its cool and like it but looks like it's going to sit without use, from the 2 of us (feels great solo but thats not what I bought it for, bought it for a new perspective and to make things fun).
I have explained that if she is not really into this stuff, thats fine, but she will have to be willing to give me what I need and crave. We can keep it simple for her end of the wants/desire. Still seems she just doesn't care what I need.
This is taking a big toll on me, I don't feel like I can be myself. I am loosing desire for sex with us, not because I don't love or want her but because its not going where I need it to go.
I like being able to come home after a stressful day and just bend her over the dryer for a quickie BUT that'll never happen, she just thinks I am overly horney. I want to be able to say "suck it" and she'll do it, BUT that won't happen - even if I encourage her to just tell/make me eat her anytime she wants it. I like to be able to pull the car over and go at it. Just the normal fun stuff!!!!
Alright, done my rant. Thanks for any insite that maybe I'm not looking at to fix this (seeing she said she likes all the same stuff at the beginning). Otherwise, I really can't go on like this.