I'm interested on hearing different takes on this situation. Not a quickie first post, bear with me.
My Lady is interested in this situation because there is a primal triggering of reaction she is investigating in herself, coupled with a clear divide in reaction to similar situations along male/female lines.
The story:
I have a minor presence in a model/photography/artist site. No real interaction, just have a small bio and half a dozen pieces in a portfolio. Recently a newbie young female model posted on my page that if I was ever looking for a model I should contact her. I checked her portfolio - a few images, non-nude, of a long, strong looking, very striking young lady. So I posted back telling her she has just the sort of look that works well with what I do, it would be cool to work with someone like her, thank you for your interest.
So a short while later I get a longer message telling me she has just moved into my city and wondered when I was free. She asked how I work - do I take reference pics and draw from the figure? So I tell my Lady about our ramped up communication, and how I think it would be nice to work with someone like the young woman. My biggest concern was that I didn't know how the model would react when told I would only pay with a small drawing and any digital reference pics I'd take.
Another communication from the young woman - she is totally cool with the way we could deal together. She loves my site, my creatures, the connections of humans with the earth that I explore. Would I use her back story, capturing some of her personal journey, as a collaborative venture? I respond that it would be intriguing to filter her as the model through my sensibilities as the artist and see what comes of it.
The reason I post:
My Lady is unsure of how to respond to this. Something about having an attractive young stranger show up at our house in the middle of the day while my Lady is at work, probably posing nude for hours as directed while I photograph and draw her - something about that situation makes my Lady feel just a wee bit odd.
She says it isn't a jealous feeling. More of a primal, woman wanting to protect what she has with her man feeling. She knows I would not pursue any casual contact, and it is very unlikely that a lovely young woman would encourage a heavier, late-middle-aged stranger to get frisky. My Lady is bothered in a way that intrigues her, this visceral feeling that wells up when considering the situation, or thinking of me being turned on by a young hottie. She compared it to her own situation, where she often sees men nude at work. The difference is that the men she sees in her context as a cancer physician are usually much older, out of shape and terribly ill with a horrible disease.
My Lady asked me how I might feel if she were about the house with some young tradesman who was virtually naked while I was away. My first reaction was that I would be concerned for her safety. If that was a non issue I wouldn't be bothered. I told her a story about my ex and an electrician who really made her horny while I was at work. I was able to enjoy the fact that my ex had a nice few days being thrilled by the sight of her stud climbing ladders and crawling around the floorboards wearing not much at all in the summer heat, and then using her stoked heat on me at night
So in summary, the difference in reactions are that my Lady is threatened in a primal way (not a jealous way) by my situation. I would probably be more concerned for her safety but not threatened myself if our positions were reversed. And a corresponding difference is that when we are out I will point out men she may find attractive so she can enjoy them, but she won't point out attractive women to me except to express anger at their revealing mode of dress.
If you've made it this far I applaud you.
Any thoughts any one? About any of this? Inquiring minds and all that.