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Hi. IMO the age difference between the two of you is not significant.
The 'where you're each at in your lives' IS significant and is reason for both of you to put your various cards on the table ... which is what you're engaged in doing, so Best wishes and respect to you and to her. Everything you and the previous posters have been covering has confirmed and consolidated that route.
The journey length ... well, you are willing to do that for weekends. I was willing to do up to 2.5 hrs at beginning and end of weekends for many years to be with my love. It's less than 4, but IMO enough to count as a big enough journey to go 'well there goes my entire evening in travel'. A friend of mine is currently doing 4 hours each way at weekends to be back with his lady .... though they'd had some time living together first and a genuine job need has made him live away from her for a while. Neither of them like it - they are 'putting up with it.' Because they are my Skype buddies, I get to be a fly on the wall and I get the impressions that their quality time IS quality, though they want more.
Parenthood .... There's a separate issue to deal with ... you KNOW that going into this relationship includes going seriously into the possibility of children. What are your thoughts and feelings on that? You mentioned that you had passed over the 'party animal' phase of existence ... I don't know whether you were doing that with a sense of regretfulness or positiveness. I'm putting these two thoughts together in one paragraph, because I want you to think what kind of [Future & Freedoms & Responsibilities] you might have been envisaging BEFORE you knew of her existence. "I'f I'd not met her, how'd I have been seeing my future now? What kind of things might I have been wanting to do or to not do, and roughly what kind of timeframes might I have had in mind"
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