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Old 01-15-2011, 11:22 AM   #1 (permalink)
ManWithAPlan
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Location: M[ass]achusetts
Relationship advice - woman who is 6 years older

So I went on a 10 day trip with a group of 30 people to Europe. Over the course of these 10 days we all spent lots and lots of time with each other. I got very closely and intimately acquainted with a particular young lady and we just hit it off immediately. I really kind of wonder if I've ever had such a close and solid connection with another person in my life. We like the same things, we have similar personalities, etc.

When I'm around girls my age, I tend to have some trouble making connections because in large, I skipped the wild party phase of my life and emotionally I'm much closer to where she is in life (I think).

Right now, I just finished my Master's and am looking for a job. I could move down to be near her, but I don't think that's a serious thing to do right away (kind of rash). And if I find a job here, it would be a bad move professionally to leave over the course of a few months. She says it's really hard for her to find a job in her line of work (nurse) over where I live.

The facts are:
She's a 4 hr drive away
She's 30 and I'm 24

I've talked to some of my friends about this, and I've also talked to my mother. And I'm obviously getting mixed answers, and I expect I will get mixed replies here too. I'm not looking for consensus but (suckup) I know this community is full of really wise and diverse people, so I invite you to share all of your wisdom and experience with me if you so choose.

I've heard that 4 hrs is not a big deal. I've also heard that long term relationships just don't work out.

My mom feels that 6 years is much too much for a woman to be older by. I can see where she's coming from because it's just what my amour said - it's about time for her to start having kids. Not that I'm against kids, but realistically for me that's at least 2 years away because I must get settled in.

Others don't think that the age gap is a big deal.

So TFP, thanks for reading my publication. Thoughts? And thanks again.
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