mcgeedo

I'm curious about masturbation in the context of a couple relationship. There are a couple current threads, "Addicted to masturbation" and "...boyfriend masturbates to friends pictures..." I posted a question in one of the threads but it's probably more appropriate to make a new thread rather than hijack that one.

My curiosity has to do with people who may masturbate while they are in a couples relationship. In the case of my wife and I, neither of us do, as a solo activity. We masturbate for each other, because we both enjoy watching. We sometimes masturbate each other as a part of our play, because of what we happen to be playing; pegging, for example. And we may "diddle" a little bit while we are together at the computer, for example, warming up before taking ourselves off to bed. But neither of us ever masturbate solo without the other being present. It just seems to us to be a waste of a good orgasm that we might otherwise share in one way or another.

We are fairly closely matched in how often we feel the need to have sex. I guess that if we had a large difference, then one of us might feel a need to get off occasionally in order to match up, but that doesn't seem to come up as a problem for us. My wife, for example, prefers to skip the heaviest days of her period, and it's not a problem at all for me to wait for her. A day or two of buildup makes the next time very nice. Similarly, she is ready for the next time a bit quicker than I am sometimes, but doesn't seem to mind my pace, either. Neither of us seems to feel a lack that we simply must fill in with a quick "rub one out."

Having said that, my reading of the other threads I mentioned would indicate to me that everyone here (at least all the men) frequently masturbate solo, and use a variety of sensory stimulation such as porn as a part of it. So I'd like to understand both (a) what percentage of people do masturbate solo, and (b) why that is. My wife and I both wonder if we are unusual in some way. Thanks in advance for any comments.

Edited to add that your vote is private (I think I did it right). And I put in my vote that neither of us does, so that's included in the poll results.

Also, I should probably point out that my wife and I are rarely apart for any significant amount of time. I work at home (telecommute) so she and I are together essentially all our waking and sleeping hours, except for very rare and short business travel on my part. When I do travel and it's more than just a day or so, we would be likely to cam and masturbate together, but again, not solo.