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Baraka_Guru · 01-11-2011, 05:07 AM

I heard a rumour that women are attracted to men who ensure their own satisfaction and happiness on top of "all that other stuff."

Are you taking care of your own needs? Does she know this?

Just give, give, give, with no taking, or with no focusing on yourself, is something you shouldn't be doing anyway. I assume most women want someone they can respect, not a servant or a one-sided suitor.

Taking care of your own needs on top of doing what you do for her will deserve her respect. If she doesn't respect you in spite of this, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship, maybe open up more communication channels.

You could just be misreading the situation.

01-11-2011, 05:07 AM	#9 (permalink)
Baraka_Guru warrior bodhisattva Super Moderator Location: East-central Canada	I heard a rumour that women are attracted to men who ensure their own satisfaction and happiness on top of "all that other stuff." Are you taking care of your own needs? Does she know this? Just give, give, give, with no taking, or with no focusing on yourself, is something you shouldn't be doing anyway. I assume most women want someone they can respect, not a servant or a one-sided suitor. Taking care of your own needs on top of doing what you do for her will deserve her respect. If she doesn't respect you in spite of this, it's time to re-evaluate the relationship, maybe open up more communication channels. You could just be misreading the situation. __________________ Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing? —Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön Humankind cannot bear very much reality. —From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot Last edited by Baraka_Guru; 01-11-2011 at 05:12 AM..