bagatelle

It's not that I would prevent anyone either, but I think, everyone should work for their relationship themselves, at least a little! My own experiences are mostly from my youth, I've been together with my husband for 20 years now. We did meet via mutual friends too, but the first time we went on a date, he had the nerve to ask me out himself, albeit drunk at the time and we didn't end up staying together then. Later when we ended up dating permanently, he was the one to ask me out again, albeit the reason to his eagerness then was, that he had been recently dumped, but that's another story...

I remember a guy, whose friends initially got me interested in him, but he didn't seem to be able to continue without the help of his friends. I hadn't paid much attention to him, because he was always very silent. Those days we mostly hung out in groups and used to go to the same places at the weekends, where we would usually bump to the same people, so when I was together with this guy (and his friends) one weekend, we didn't exactly agree on the next date. Then I was unable to go out next weekend, my then good friend, who had been out with another group of friends at the time, had vamped this guy.

Well, not knowing anything about this, I appeared to the "scene" week later and expected this guy to be happy to see me again, but instead he was grumpy and showed no interest. I was puzzled and his friends later kind of accused me of not showing up and said the guy was hurt, because he thought I dumped him! So silly, thinking about it afterwards, but it hurt then. That finally made me see, what a tramp and parasite the girl was, who was supposed to be my friend. Her other friend told me later, she knew I had been with this guy.

It probably wouldn't have felt that bad, if we both didn't have sex with him... Oh, and I continued seeing this guy for a while, but only found out about my friend's part later.

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