bagatelle

When I was in late teens, I realized a (then) good friend of mine likes to come visit me at our house, because she fancies my brother. Well, I knew my brother would not like her at all in that sense and he would never date her.

This made me feel a bit awkward for my friend, because I couldn't tell her that, but I also didn't like, that it's not really my company she's after.

OTOH, I could tell some of my brother's friends would visit our house to see me...

My mother has always been an annoying matchmaker. She used to work at a shop, where she met many of my school mates and she would joke to the boys of my age, that they might become her son-in-law one day. She constantly discussed with a granny of one of these boys, how I and this woman's grandson should marry. This was only more than enough for me not to even consider any of them...

These kind of experiences have made me try to stay as far as possible from any situations, where I would connect two people to each other and tell them, they should be together. I wish everyone finds their happiness or breaks up without my part in it, I wanted to find my own partner without someone else - especially my mother! - telling me, who to pick.

I feel uncomfortable, when I notice, someone is possibly using me as an instrument to get to know someone else better in romantic sense.

Is this too extreme thinking? Do you enjoy hooking two people up? Should I take a different kind of attitude and help people to unite and be happy for them instead of being skeptical, rather? Should I fear less of being used?

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