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Originally Posted by purplelirpa
The air is uncomfortable, but I think it's funny when it comes out. Maybe you could ask him if it's ok if he pulls out so you can get the air out. Then you can both laugh about it. "haha vaginas are funny," etc.
No one has addressed this yet, but there's some underlying frustration on your end about his weight and general attitude. Do you think this could be contributing to your negative sexual experience? Maybe the air wouldn't bother you so much if you felt like you could be more open without the fear of him losing his erection. Seems like there's some pressure surrounding that. Do you feel like you can talk to him about these issues openly?
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That's what makes these forums so interesting. Reading tone on text is very difficult. Very observant.
This is really another thread topic. I've never really heard a woman complain of her overweight husband/significant other being sexually unappealing. Men on the other hand are more verbal about having a wife/significant other gain tremendous amounts of weight. I could be wrong here but I'm interested in what y'all have to say.
His weight frustrates me to no end. However he has no intention of making changes. He is happy as he is and feels I should be happy with him too. (He has told me so) He outweighs me by more than 100 lbs. He wasn't always been overweight and was in very good shape. As the years progressed he steadily gained weight. He continues to do so. I've never seen him as big as he is now. He is so big that he struggles to lift his leg to put his shoes on. He's developed hypertension but has no other medical problems. The weight gain is from overeating.
With the weight gain also brought the sex decline. For quiet sometime he couldn't have an erection. Lots of patience on my behalf and resentment building up over the years. The more I wanted to have sex the less he did. He told me that marriages aren't just about the sex. There is love and that he shows me his love in other ways. He started his blood pressure medication and things improved slightly. So I deal with whatever sex I get and make the most of it.
The air pumping didn't start until he passed the 250 mark. He pumps air into me because he can't always penetrate fully. That is why I get on top. Being on top is frustrating as well because he is wide. He gets winded rather easily as well. I maintained a weight of about 120 lbs but put on 10 lbs to see if it would help. It has made me sturdier.
When I posted this thread I really should've written something about his weight. Do women who have sex with overweight guys get pumped full of air like I do? Or does this happen anyway? It didn't happen before. What kind of positions do they use to avoid it? How can you make sex more pleasurable when one partner is large and the other is small? Are there any large men out there who have anything to add to this? Do they have a healthy libido?
What are your thoughts?
P.S. He's always trying to fatten me up.