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Yes, this does seem like a bit of a stupid and embarrassing situation, but I figured it might be best to run it past the professionals of TFP for commentary and suggestions for the next course of action.

I've been dating my girlfriend for a few years now, she was a virgin when we started dating. After waiting way too long, she finally gained interested in going all the way... but it wouldn't fit. The pace has been pretty slow on working on it as she's extremely embarrassed... however I feel that not fixing the problem will ultimately be a huge negative factor in the relationship. Our sex live is dwindling downward, we are both bored or oral. In addition to her initial lack of interest, the fact of it not working has been making it extremely hard and rarer to make opportunities to try it again.

She's clamping down rather tight down there.. We've pushed and pushed, it's like trying to push my penis into a cinderblock, minus the rough stoney surface. During the last year, we've tried to work up from smaller items, including fingers and even a vibrator. The fact that those go in do demonstrate that there is indeed an opening there... I've stumbled upon articles of ladies who have had similar issues and have always had uncomfortable sex for years... do vagina's really stretch out and get accustomed to penises easily or are they more fixed?

We've googled the issue... I really don't know what to say from there.. there really isn't any clear answer. I've read of one issue where girls have overly contracted muscles down there that prevent them from doing it... I've survived middle school sex ed and stumbled upon Internet pictures that I shouldn't have seen, so I do know that yes that thing should be able to stretch to way huge sizes... this is just getting stupid

She expressed that she will schedule an appointment with a health clinic to get her vagina looked at, however I do feel that a bit more might be needed such as a sexual therapist or gyno more experienced in the matter... She's been drawing out that idea way to long so it would likely take a few months before anything even begins to materialize.

Right now I'm frustrated... she wants to move the relationship forward and has been hinting to wanting a ring for a while but I'm reluctant as this is a much bigger issue for me than it is for her... If we can't get this issue to work, marital issues down the road ain't going to be much easier to work out and I really would enjoy using my penis again this century.

What do you guys think possible issues with this could be? Should we stop trying until we see someone or should we just try and try again or will this even ever work? I hope I wrote enough, I'll add more as I can and will answer any questions and respond to everything :-)

- TFP member of over 5 Years with ample posts and blue balls