Condensing your quotable into a more manageable sum-up: [though I'll hit upon some of your other hypotheticals, too]
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Originally Posted by Plan9
Okay, so what's the high road? The "moral high road?"
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beating (
mentally- / verbally-abusive castigation) her (the cheating gf) in private might have been more "couth". Not as entertaining a scenario, whatever the place that has in a society like ours, (it's pretty high up there, I think, however woesome) but just discussing matters internally helps resolve situations much more quickly / cleanly than involving those to which the situation pertains not at all (e.g. a radio audience, the parents, the fuzz, etc.) musses it up further than where one could have gone with a possible 5-min sorry-soliloquy and/or justified hysterical ranting. I'll admit: I'd much rather get bitched at in private, or taken out behind the woodshed with a 2x4 (it's happened before) than have to put it on display and let it be called "a show". It's not really a matter if one desrves it or not, but if you see it coming, it's best to minimize the potential damages.
Therefore, what this guy did, if not staged, and it was meant to a lasting, immediate impact in real-life situations, while perhaps highly-entertaining to the masses of yokels like me, is in the "wrong" column of how to act like a decent human being. Granted, he'd most likely be issued a reprieve if all the wrong in the relationship with his girl was perpetrated by the other party, he was the everlasting victim there, and he just took that last broken straw in such a derailed coupling, and decided to turn it back on the villianous woman he's "wasted" the past five years of his life with... it's all real speculative, though.
I, myself, have been in similar situations [when one is raving mad] where I kept myself on an even keel, despite knowing full-well I could have the justification to go berserk and "defend myself". It doesn't feel right to cage one's emotions in all at once when you just feel that need to defend your honour. I have put on a defense in other situations where I let my anger get to me, and despite my regrettable actions, as well as knowing those same emotions & actions were "within reason" for some, they certainly weren't within my own. I'm a noted pacifist, with an extreme prejudice towards revenge. I love hating stuff and everyone, but it does consume me to hold onto such nonsense, that I much rather go on feeling bad about not being able to do anything about to you, than having to hate myself later on for hating everyone else.
It's really hard to let the babbling go, no?
"You get as much as you give, in return" --(
if I haven't botched the saying)
I don't know if there is cosmic karmic justice, and I know that wouldn't stop some from just being their regular jerkiness selves all the same... but, to other half of the invisible majority, yeah, by some accounts, they try to live by that instilled moral code of conduct. I try. And fail. Then, I try to get ahold of some better semblance of that again. And learn from what works, and what doesn't.
Long story short: As much "epic"
ratings gold! as the jilted boyfriend did by waving his broken heart on-air, what good did he really achieve? I'll give him ended his admitted horrible relationship with quite a flair. He hurt the cheating girlfriend, probably, via the widespread "gasp!" embarassment factor, but he didn't save himself from any more hurt. There's no real right/wrong answer for what the guy "supposedly" achieved in the end. Clarity? Emancipation? A headache of civil suit for libel? Who knows - we can't even confirm if this clip is real or not, so what's the use (and what's the supposed radio station / airdate of this clip)?
One thing I'll leave you with:
Yeah, I know; you can stuff your sorry's in a sack, partner.