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Thanks again for all the helpful replies.
Firstly, yes Im from Western Culture.
I actually suggested watching porn with her, but her response was "Im not good enough for you?" so I quickly down played it, after it took me a while to convince her it was me and not her. Then She brought it up again as something she wanted to try but hasnt mentioned it since and I dont want to push it. Besides like secret says i need to be able to do this alone.
I started following the link Plan9 gave and kept trying to do research on the topic. From my non-medical opinion Im pretty sure its a combination of performance anxiety and my brain being desensitized to porn. I honestly never realized this to be a problem when I watched it. I always thought it was just fantasy.
But Ive realized now that I hate the way I see women. Really slutty girls attract me, but I do have respect for women and I really dont want to only see them in this way. Decided to throw porn and masturbation away. Already started and its pretty painful, but I gonna force myself to go at least a month.
From the past couple of days though, I think I am making small improvements. I am able to last a while now but its takes me a while to hard enough to penetrate still. My major problem is that my erections just dont last during foreplay. We will be on the couch and Ill just get really hard. But whenever she starts with foreplay itll feel really good for a couple seconds and Ill get even harder, but then after about 30 seconds it just starts to get soft, and well have to start over again.
My other major problem as I mentioned is i cant sleep in the same bed with her. I just cant get a good sleep and end up tossing and turning all night. This is starting to become a big problem as I am sleeping over at her place quite often. If anyone has any suggestions to get over this as well please let me know.
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