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Plan9 · 12-18-2010, 10:24 PM

Hey, I'm all for the typical "hit the gym, make new guy friends, do cooking classes" perpetual self-development thing, but the only way you're really going to get good at relationships is by being in them, navigating various situations, dealing with break ups and new people. I'd recommend getting a profile on some online dating sites (OkCupid, PlentyOfFish) and meeting girls that are interested in no-shit dating. There is less bullshit and you can multitask. I mean, you can be the most attractive and interesting guy on the planet but you need to advertise that you're out there and you definitely need to get the experience of wading through dates to both get a feel for what type of people you're into and to develop some perspective on how to handle various relationship challenges like chores, old sex, meshing hobbies, dealing with family, use of money, etc.

And, for fuck's sake, don't rush into moving in with another person and getting married. That stuff can always wait.

12-18-2010, 10:24 PM	#10 (permalink)
Plan9 I Confess a Shiver	Hey, I'm all for the typical "hit the gym, make new guy friends, do cooking classes" perpetual self-development thing, but the only way you're really going to get good at relationships is by being in them, navigating various situations, dealing with break ups and new people. I'd recommend getting a profile on some online dating sites (OkCupid, PlentyOfFish) and meeting girls that are interested in no-shit dating. There is less bullshit and you can multitask. I mean, you can be the most attractive and interesting guy on the planet but you need to advertise that you're out there and you definitely need to get the experience of wading through dates to both get a feel for what type of people you're into and to develop some perspective on how to handle various relationship challenges like chores, old sex, meshing hobbies, dealing with family, use of money, etc. And, for fuck's sake, don't rush into moving in with another person and getting married. That stuff can always wait. __________________ *Whatever you can carry.* "You should not drink... and bake." Last edited by Plan9; 12-18-2010 at 10:31 PM..