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Originally Posted by Xerxys
WTF?? Kids are story tellers. My niece cries EVERYTIME I ask her to get her shoes on. One time she heard my mom tell me not to yell at her (to her benefit, I was yelling, I freaked out because she climbed on the table and started jumping up and down) and that has been her go to story whenever I ask her to do something she doesn't want to do. I've had to move her up to severe punishments including standing in the corner facing the wall up to 5 whole minutes for lying. It's torture  . Even when she lies remotely about something small I make sure she's punished for it.
Wait, what was my point? Oh right. Kids can be story tellers but they won't be able to fool a professional. When this kid is questioned by a child shrink then your friend will get justice. Weather or not it's in his favor, I don't know. |
As an aside, Xerx...you really really need to stop this. You're probably actually making things worse. There's a difference between disciplining a child appropriately and punishing them. Punishment is bad; over time, it will make your niece fear you, and it may even make her more of a liar in order to avoid the punishment she knows is coming. You need to ensure a child UNDERSTANDS why they are in trouble--you sit down and talk with them. "Hey, so you did A, why did you do A? Why don't we do A? What are the consequences of doing A?" Yes, you give time outs, but you make clear that a time out is meant as a period in which they can think about their choices, their actions, and the consequences. A time out should also be no longer than their age; beyond that and it really isn't doing you any good. It's just fostering resentment and not encouraging them to think about the problem.
As to the OP: I'm sorry, that's really tough, but your friend should have ensured he was allegation-proof in this situation. As someone who works with children professionally too, I can tell you that I make damn sure my ass is covered. If I have to be alone with a child to toilet them, I make sure the door is open and that another teacher knows I am taking that child to toilet them. There's no doubt that people are really allegation-happy these days, and it saddens me that I have to take precautions to protect myself, but your friend really should have realized the same things.