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Suzz04 · 12-09-2010, 01:25 PM

thank you lala1... that did help alot... i just had a talk with my daughter, just trying to talk.

evidently she must like goofing up, because she sent the daddy a text much earlier prior to the talk and it went basically like this.

I will not be allowed around the baby once it's born. Because I "supposedly" said that he can't see the baby. I never said that he couldn't. I said that MY child could not spend the night with him. I never said that they couldn't see each other. They came up with that on their own. I said it was going to be restricted on them. My trust was broken and thus must be earned back.

Now, I have this "wonderful" daddy, threatening that once the baby is born, he'll be 18 and my daughter 15, she will live with him (apparently the only way they can take care of the baby together is to live together) and if I don't let them do this he will take it to court and take the baby away from her. Plus, if I let her "live" with him, I will still not be allowed to see the baby and the only way my child will see me is if and when she wants without the baby.

Well, my temper has not got the best of me yet, but I really am now despising this boy. I don't know what the courts do in Virginia on cases like this, but I'm pretty sure that unless I give approval for marriage then he's going to be going to court over trying to live with a minor. I already said once to her that marriage was out of the question til she was 18 because she needed to grow up more. My giving that approval makes it seem as if *I* really do approve of all this when I don't.

He's basing all the temper I've had the last couple of months (since September) that I've had and alot of things that have went on til November on what he's seen of my yelling, apparent not allowing her to do more with him (i think they did too much), and some things during a time that I was completely off medication in order to have a second child. I went back on my medicine at the end of October and have been faithfully taking it since.

If this is what is being thrown at me that I will not see my daughter or grandchild, then I have to say that I will highly be seeing what options that I will have towards him. Now I know that his way of thinking is going to be one of that he isn't going to grow up and she's going to just follow along with what ever he says because she grew up with out a dad and doesn't want the same for hers.

I've had guilt trips thrown at me today. One, because I've said I would send her to her father in the past to let him take care of her (he stayed in Louisiana and New York to escape having to keep her except summers) to at least have a break from her. Every parent needs a break at some point. I got thrown in my face that I never wanted her at any point in her life because of that.

I did have points of time where I snapped prior to the diagnosis that I have what was wrong with me that I said things I don't remember saying because I was "seeing red" from finally breaking with all the stress of trying to single parent and work. I'm admitting that it has not been a perfect life and has had alot of stress in the years.

But this thing the boy is pulling has put him in a rather bad situation, at least with me

12-09-2010, 01:25 PM	#16 (permalink)
Suzz04 Crazy Location: Virginia	thank you lala1... that did help alot... i just had a talk with my daughter, just trying to talk. evidently she must like goofing up, because she sent the daddy a text much earlier prior to the talk and it went basically like this. I will not be allowed around the baby once it's born. Because I "supposedly" said that he can't see the baby. I never said that he couldn't. I said that MY child could not spend the night with him. I never said that they couldn't see each other. They came up with that on their own. I said it was going to be restricted on them. My trust was broken and thus must be earned back. Now, I have this "wonderful" daddy, threatening that once the baby is born, he'll be 18 and my daughter 15, she will live with him (apparently the only way they can take care of the baby together is to live together) and if I don't let them do this he will take it to court and take the baby away from her. Plus, if I let her "live" with him, I will still not be allowed to see the baby and the only way my child will see me is if and when she wants without the baby. Well, my temper has not got the best of me yet, but I really am now despising this boy. I don't know what the courts do in Virginia on cases like this, but I'm pretty sure that unless I give approval for marriage then he's going to be going to court over trying to live with a minor. I already said once to her that marriage was out of the question til she was 18 because she needed to grow up more. My giving that approval makes it seem as if I really do approve of all this when I don't. He's basing all the temper I've had the last couple of months (since September) that I've had and alot of things that have went on til November on what he's seen of my yelling, apparent not allowing her to do more with him (i think they did too much), and some things during a time that I was completely off medication in order to have a second child. I went back on my medicine at the end of October and have been faithfully taking it since. If this is what is being thrown at me that I will not see my daughter or grandchild, then I have to say that I will highly be seeing what options that I will have towards him. Now I know that his way of thinking is going to be one of that he isn't going to grow up and she's going to just follow along with what ever he says because she grew up with out a dad and doesn't want the same for hers. I've had guilt trips thrown at me today. One, because I've said I would send her to her father in the past to let him take care of her (he stayed in Louisiana and New York to escape having to keep her except summers) to at least have a break from her. Every parent needs a break at some point. I got thrown in my face that I never wanted her at any point in her life because of that. I did have points of time where I snapped prior to the diagnosis that I have what was wrong with me that I said things I don't remember saying because I was "seeing red" from finally breaking with all the stress of trying to single parent and work. I'm admitting that it has not been a perfect life and has had alot of stress in the years. But this thing the boy is pulling has put him in a rather bad situation, at least with me __________________ Quantum Cat Theory: Upon hearing the sound of a can being opened, it becomes possible for a cat to travel faster than the speed of light.