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Suzz04 · 12-09-2010, 08:40 AM

In answer to the question of have I actually seen the show, yes I did watch some of it. Sadly the part I got to see was the girl at school with her friends in the bathroom giggling about how mom took it and they all seemed excited.

I have to agree that this regardless of becoming a actress/etc later doesn't come from being on the show, but it puts her up on the famous list at school for this.

Everyone in regards to her being pregnant are being supportive. Yes, there have been lectures, appointments scheduled, and including when you need to talk you know where to find any of us. That includes myself, my parents, her father, and several others.

She realizes that we're not "happy" with the situation and that she does have options on what we will do once birth has happened. I'm along the feeling of she needs to at least attempt to do her best at taking care of the baby on (not completely) her own. Who am I to say that daddy will stick around and not just disappear? If it becomes too much for her mentally, given her age, I will step in and adoption will most likely be our next step.

Finishing school is required. I already told her that I want her to finish high school. It's going to all be hard. School as well as going through the changes til birth and including afterward. I will say that she is a smart girl, however she's very stubborn and hard headed. No matter what anyone tells her, even if she asked the question to start, it's "I already know this" or the eye roll and "I know".

So far, daddy is around. Not that I really want him being around, apparently they're fighting because of he doesn't like what people say and can't keep his mouth shut. Neither can she. I've tried to explain to both that the more that they "mouth off" to these people trying to control what they say, they're just throwing fuel to the fire. That has went absolutely no where other than a fire building higher from their own actions.

In regards to his family, I don't know them. I know the mother had her first at 15 so I don't know if she's on the "I had one at 15 done fine so what?" or is in the feeling I am "I don't like this but it's done"

I admit I have problems with the whole idea. I'm doing my best in controlling everything I say or do. However, being as children are parents best button pushers, she's been taking a sledge hammer to said buttons. Last night was a battle over, she wanted to go visit with daddy, I said ok but you're coming back by this time. Then it was "No I'm not, I'm spending the night". Then the cliche of "And the fight started...." No she did not spend the night and daddy was pissed because he thinks that I said for them to break up.

Getting her to talk has been nearly impossible. It comes down to eye rolling, snapping, and walking off with "I don't want to talk about this anymore". From what I have gathered so far, previously before pregnancy happened, they had broken up because I didn't interact with him and that caused him to think I hated him and wanted them broke up. Gosh, makes me really wish that I had known that and went to make sure that there wasn't a getting back together. Yes, hind sight is 20/20.

Now, we're at the same step again of breaking up, cause I told him there would be restricted visits. I didn't have time to go into a long lengthy detail of what that meant since I was being bombarded with questions by several people.

Choices I hope have been made obvious, but given that she's prone to ignore everything I say, I'll be repeating them and getting the "You've already told me this" answer with attitude.

And I thank everyone for their input, whether or not they have been in the situation. Everyone that I try to talk to gives me this "You don't have to like it but you're gonna have to like it regardless" talk, or the "You're gonna have to bond with her even harder now" which I can't even get her to talk to me without her turning every thing I say into something else. So, now I have no way to say what I feel and think. I even had to tell my mother she was getting out of control due to the "Get down on your knees and pray to the lord with me" over the phone. I'm not highly religious and feel I'm getting it shoved down my throat by someone who just recently (she's nearing 60 if that helps) started spouting pray to the lord and other stuff. I'm not trying to offend anyone on their religion. I just find it odd she's suddenly after 50 years went from we don't talk religion to that's all I hear.

12-09-2010, 08:40 AM	#10 (permalink)
Suzz04 Crazy Location: Virginia	In answer to the question of have I actually seen the show, yes I did watch some of it. Sadly the part I got to see was the girl at school with her friends in the bathroom giggling about how mom took it and they all seemed excited. I have to agree that this regardless of becoming a actress/etc later doesn't come from being on the show, but it puts her up on the famous list at school for this. Everyone in regards to her being pregnant are being supportive. Yes, there have been lectures, appointments scheduled, and including when you need to talk you know where to find any of us. That includes myself, my parents, her father, and several others. She realizes that we're not "happy" with the situation and that she does have options on what we will do once birth has happened. I'm along the feeling of she needs to at least attempt to do her best at taking care of the baby on (not completely) her own. Who am I to say that daddy will stick around and not just disappear? If it becomes too much for her mentally, given her age, I will step in and adoption will most likely be our next step. Finishing school is required. I already told her that I want her to finish high school. It's going to all be hard. School as well as going through the changes til birth and including afterward. I will say that she is a smart girl, however she's very stubborn and hard headed. No matter what anyone tells her, even if she asked the question to start, it's "I already know this" or the eye roll and "I know". So far, daddy is around. Not that I really want him being around, apparently they're fighting because of he doesn't like what people say and can't keep his mouth shut. Neither can she. I've tried to explain to both that the more that they "mouth off" to these people trying to control what they say, they're just throwing fuel to the fire. That has went absolutely no where other than a fire building higher from their own actions. In regards to his family, I don't know them. I know the mother had her first at 15 so I don't know if she's on the "I had one at 15 done fine so what?" or is in the feeling I am "I don't like this but it's done" I admit I have problems with the whole idea. I'm doing my best in controlling everything I say or do. However, being as children are parents best button pushers, she's been taking a sledge hammer to said buttons. Last night was a battle over, she wanted to go visit with daddy, I said ok but you're coming back by this time. Then it was "No I'm not, I'm spending the night". Then the cliche of "And the fight started...." No she did not spend the night and daddy was pissed because he thinks that I said for them to break up. Getting her to talk has been nearly impossible. It comes down to eye rolling, snapping, and walking off with "I don't want to talk about this anymore". From what I have gathered so far, previously before pregnancy happened, they had broken up because I didn't interact with him and that caused him to think I hated him and wanted them broke up. Gosh, makes me really wish that I had known that and went to make sure that there wasn't a getting back together. Yes, hind sight is 20/20. Now, we're at the same step again of breaking up, cause I told him there would be restricted visits. I didn't have time to go into a long lengthy detail of what that meant since I was being bombarded with questions by several people. Choices I hope have been made obvious, but given that she's prone to ignore everything I say, I'll be repeating them and getting the "You've already told me this" answer with attitude. And I thank everyone for their input, whether or not they have been in the situation. Everyone that I try to talk to gives me this "You don't have to like it but you're gonna have to like it regardless" talk, or the "You're gonna have to bond with her even harder now" which I can't even get her to talk to me without her turning every thing I say into something else. So, now I have no way to say what I feel and think. I even had to tell my mother she was getting out of control due to the "Get down on your knees and pray to the lord with me" over the phone. I'm not highly religious and feel I'm getting it shoved down my throat by someone who just recently (she's nearing 60 if that helps) started spouting pray to the lord and other stuff. I'm not trying to offend anyone on their religion. I just find it odd she's suddenly after 50 years went from we don't talk religion to that's all I hear. __________________ Quantum Cat Theory: Upon hearing the sound of a can being opened, it becomes possible for a cat to travel faster than the speed of light.