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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
Do you also lie to yourself?
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No i dont, i accept my faults and weaknesses and embrace my strengths. I know that im a liar and think bad thoughts, i do feel guilty about lying to my loved ones and friends.
If i come out now to my loved ones/friends and tell em ive been lying to them for the longest time...i could lose them. Would it be so bad if instead of telling them so, i just STOP telling them lies. Before i open my mouth i will remember the guilty feeling i get after lying and instead of lying to them like i normally would, i will tell the truth. You know kinda like how a thief/gangbanger/murderer leaves the "bad life" behind and starts new?
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Originally Posted by Xerxys
Hehehe, I c wut u did thar. You bullshitter you ...
Besides "trying" to stop, why not just stop? Dude, this planet has 6 billion human beings. No one, and by that I mean NO ONE, cares what you think, feel, ate for dinner ... etc etc etc etc
The people who walk up to you and say, "Oh, you drive a new Corolla? I drive a Prius, FAR more environmentally friendly" then after you get the Prius, "I drive a Buick Lucerne, FAR more Luxurious" are those who want to feel superior to you. So lying that you drive an S class is essentially playing their Patrick Bateman game at 'one-upping' them. Stop trying to do that. You actually sound like a braggart and a jack ass.
Lying to make people feel better is a poor excuse. Many people don't really get their feelings hurt that easily. I tell my friend a lot of times he's fat and he simply tells me to kiss his man flabs and fuck off. This is a dude that isn't fat but is very self conscious. I met a girl that I am very good friends with at mcDonalds when one of her friends was teasing her over her wig that she looked crazy and turned to me whilst in the queue and asked, "doesn't she look crazy?" Of which I replied, "Yes. Yes she does". So, myth debunked. People don't need their feelings spared over mundane things.
Lying to get yourself out of a situation hardly ever works either. There are times to lie and times not to. Before telling a lie think about the possible repercussions that might be in place for someone unintended. Like lying at an accident scene will almost certainly get you in trouble because evidence usually suggests otherwise.
Lying is bad. Plain and simple. Next time just recount facts. Usually stories told are pulled from memories. So just recount facts without embellishing the truth.
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You can call me liar but bragger? Nope, thats not something i do. I just lie out of habit, its not like i feel good/get my jollies off lying to people. Its become so natural as breathing but feel guilty and know i need to stop cause its wrong.
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Originally Posted by Willravel
The kind of lying you do brings you a similar comfort as many other compulsive behaviors, and might suggest that it's a symptom of something else. I eat compulsively because of self-esteem issues going back to my childhood, for example. I probably sound like a broken record, but seeing a licensed therapist would probably be the most helpful step you can take right now.
Best of luck, and honesty is the best policy.
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Thanks for your advice, i used to see a therapist at Kaiser back when i was in elementary/junior high/high school and it felt good. I could pour out my emotions and feelings and get advice/insight. I plan to start seeing one again, once a week would be awesome.