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Old 11-19-2010, 12:02 PM   #6 (permalink)
purplelirpa
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Location: Indiana
I'll include some details about our life. We've been living together since July, dating since February. We met online. He'd been with one other girl, but they lived in different states while they were in college. He hasn't had a chance to date or have sex with any other girls. Just very shy.

I moved to another state to be with him after the 2.5 hour drive on the weekends got to be too much and we realized that we loved each other enough that we wanted to give the relationship a real chance.

He's very giving in many other ways, he's just really not sure what to do sexually, and I'm not sure what to do to show him.

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Originally Posted by jadangel View Post
Will he watch porn with you? If he will then maybe you could suggest acting out some of the senarios that you like.....I've been with inexperienced men before and they all were more than eager to learn new things......You could get really descriptive about the things you like to do and the things that you would like to do to him. That way he knows exactly what to expect and there won't be any surprises that might catch him off gaurd......

I think you just might have to go really slow with this guy and introduce one new thing at a time and when he is comfortable with that then introduce another new thing. Could be slow going, but if you think he worth it then you won't mind being patient with him.
I've tried suggesting the porn idea. He used to watch it, but he feels strongly that it objectifies women and that the industry capitalizes on selling false sexual experiences. It bothers him to think about how the women who make it were treated. He does like it when I make him videos, though, but doesn't ever really request anything, so I'm not sure what he wants me to do.

I've tried reading him passages from erotica that I like, and he just seems uncomfortable about it, or thinks it's funny, or is just uninterested.

You're definitely right about the one thing at a time. I guess I'm just trying to figure out the best way to bring these things up.
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