purplelirpa

So that I don't botch this effort anymore than I already have, I'm turning to the interwebz for help.

I'm curious about how to teach a sexually repressed, inexperienced, shy guy to be more uninhibited and passionate about sex. When I say inexperienced, he has the whole physical act of fucking down, there have been multiple times when I've had sustained 10-minute long orgasms. But when I ask him to do something like talk dirty to me, or I start trying to pull him on the bed and entice him to have sex with me, he feels pressured and shuts down or gets annoyed. If something else like cuddling leads into sex, he's okay with that, but no scenarios where anything is expected of him.

I've always really preferred guys who know what they're doing and who are very confident about it. This has left me at a disadvantage because I don't know how to initiate very well. I'm really attracted to him, and really want to touch him all the time, but he just isn't responding the way that I would like.

Is there anything I should be doing to get him to open up more without making him feel pressured? I ask him about his fantasies and he says he doesn't have any. I ask him what he'd like to do to me, and he says just sex. He's claiming his catholic upbringing really messed things up for him sexually, and I'm curious if that's just an excuse, especially since he's an atheist now, who has rejected catholicism for the past 10 years.

Any ideas?