Don't sweat it. Some like it some don't. If she is too sensitive and you're hammering her clit with tongue, that would be uncomfortable. Freshness, yeah ladies worry about that.
If you think it's a matter of technique........
Always shave your face clean before going down. Whiskers are like sand paper and that's no good in sensitive areas. Although I've met a couple who dig it, most don't.
Take your time. Start with her lips then move down to the neck and chest, caress, lick, suck and kiss everything from the lips down. The elbows and backs of the knees are good spots too. Don't forget about your hands, caress everything you can reach paying more attention to areas that make her moan or writhe. Once you get there pay attention to the surrounding areas before going straight for the button. The more you tease, the hotter she'll get. Start out gentle and only apply more pressure if she's pushing against you or writhing and moaning. Don't go in like it's a race. Slow and easy until she signals otherwise. That could be anything from writhing and moaning to grabbing you by the ears and putting you in a head lock.
Pay attention to the area between the clit and the vaginal opening, pay a lot of attention to this area.
Belly button to butthole and the insides of both legs, lick, kiss and suck, even a little chewing can be good.
Follow her lead. If she's just laying there still and quiet, it's not working for her. Move around and explore. If she's moving her hips around stay were you are, she's trying to put herself were she needs to be. Once she stops moving, work it.
Keep your mouth wet and use your lips too.
If your not sure what to do with your tongue, try licking the alphabet. It'll keep your tongue from focusing on one spot too long and you should be able to tell from her reaction which areas she likes best.
Don't forget your fingers, penetration during oral drives most women over the edge quick. Using you index and middle fingers massage the roof of her vagina (just inside, behind the clit). If none of this works, it's probably not an issue with technique. But bear in mind, everyone is different. Some women just don't orgasm from clitoral stimulation, just as others don't from penetration.
Remember 3 words: wet, wet, wet! Wet is your friend. Dry = uncomfortable.
And remember to more around, doing anything too long is just annoying and will kill the mood quick. If she quits responding, move on.
But, all of that is useless if she's uncomfortable. Maybe letting her know how much you enjoy giving oral and asking if there is anything you can do differently. Let her know she's clean and tastes good. Avoid the clit if she's too sensitive. Alleviate her concerns and build her confidence. Let her know how beautiful she is and how much you enjoy her.
Sometimes the best thing your tongue can do is talk.
You're right not to push her, if she doesn't like it, so be it.
I'm sure some ladies will chime in with some ideas and a different view point.
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Last edited by RogueGypsy; 11-05-2010 at 12:17 AM..
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