I recently got out of a really good relationship. She was attractive, had all the right values, and made me feel good about a lot of things. In the end however, circumstances beyond my control and certain incompatibilities made me decide to end it. (Distance and inability to really communicate about the things in life that mattered to me).
When breaking up, it really boils down to your decision as to whether it is worth it to *YOU* to work at it, and to make sacrifices to make the relationship work. Ask yourself, what do I want in life, and is she who I want to share it with. Don't base your decision on the lack of excitement, or, the lack of spark, because those are things that are very easily changed (set aside time to do something fun together).
It seems like if your close friends tell you, "it takes work." They probably see you two as a good couple. If she is indeed your best friend, this tells me that communication and compatibility are already pretty strong.
So, before you split:
- Weigh what you like about her, versus what you don't like.
- Consider that you may be falling for the 'grass is greener' syndrome.
- Really think about your future, your goals, and if you can see her in them.
- Try your best to not make the decision based on fear.
Put down the game controller sometime and spend some quality time with her.
Last edited by KirStang; 10-28-2010 at 05:59 PM..
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