Baraka_Guru

I think it's been pretty well explained here that the problem is the disparity between goals.

I've been in a similar position where I see people around me doing "goaly" things while I either spin my wheels or simply stagnate. It's discouraging and can cause emotional blockages between others with whom you have close relationships.

I think it would be important to not just look at the relationship but to look at yourself and ask if you're happy with who you are. If you understand yourself and what you're doing, you will have the desire to form and maintain a healthy relationship with someone you love. Without that, you...well, stagnate.

It sounds like you might be distracting yourself. The video games thing can be a touchy subject. How much are you playing? I find in my own case, I use video games as serious escapism. Hours upon hours each week almost rivalling what the average American spends on watching television (OMG).

I got to the point where I realized I'm not getting out of it (or life) that I wanted, and so I cut it down (and, practically speaking, out). I figured that playing video games was a way to avoid confronting my fear of doing something useful such as read books, magazines, and newspapers that will give me the know-how and confidence to move forward in my work prospects.

So ask yourself: Do you like your work? Are you mapping out a career? Do you like how you spend your free time? Is it rewarding and fulfilling?

You're only 23. You shouldn't be "settled in" with anything yet. Most people never really do.

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