At this point it sounds like you've pretty much made up your mind, so I'm not sure what kind of advice you want. So I'll just try to predict what's going to happen.
You're going to hurt her. A lot. It sounds like she really doesn't see this coming, although I don't see much here about what her perspective is. It's probable that she doesn't see this coming, but I doubt it.
So you've been living together but you're just not into her any more. And you're not willing to figure out why. That doesn't make you a bad person in my eyes, but it probably will in hers.
I'd sit her down and explain this to her as nicely and calmly as possible. She deserves to know the truth. Maybe there's something that you two can do to restart the spark - I've got no idea what floats your boat but won't rule out transexual Nazi strippers.
I guess my only advice is to keep an open mind if possible and not burn the bridge if you can avoid it.
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