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Originally Posted by tmoney420
thanks everyone. i think what makes this situation so confusing for me is that this girl has a boyfriend so im not sure whats going through her head because we hang out pretty much every day. i guess im confused as to if she wants to be "fuck buddies" or if she actually likes me. and if we are just fuck buddies does that mean she wants to everytime she comes over or what? obviously since this is a first sexual relationship of any kind everything is going to be new and strange to me, but every other girl ive done anything with in the past has been my girlfriend. so even this kind of relationship is foreign to me. so basically i want to know, and obviously you all can only speak from your own experiences, but how often should i be looking to initiate things with her? i hope this made sense i was just kinda thinking out loud...
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It sounds like you two really need to have a long talk about stuff before you move on to what kind of sexual relationship you're going to build. Talk about where you both stand with one another before it develops into some gigantic train wreck, trust me on that one. The fuck buddy thing isn't as easy as it sounds, and while the idea of commitmentless (is that a word?) sex is pretty enticing you also have to be ready to check your emotional attachments at the door, remember she's not your girlfriend. To me it sounds like you had a great night of sex and maybe its time to move on or cool your jets and just be friends...but if you're going to go down that road I'd highly recommend getting the confusion out of the way first.
Anyway, I don't think there is really a magic number on how often you should be having sex, it just happens when it happens be it 5 times a day 7 days a week or once a month. You just have to go with your gut on that one, if your in the mood get something going and see if she is too. Relax, over thinking is a great way to ruin perfectly good sex.