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Originally Posted by MSD
If things are back to normal then nothing lost, nothing gained, right? Let whatever happens, happen. If you are both really attracted to each other, you're probably going to end up together sooner or later.
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you're probably right. If we are attracted to each other, it might happen later down the road, and if not, at least it's been a good time. The problem is if we keep acting as we do, and she DOES happen to want more out of our relationship, she's going to assume that I don't want anything more, when I really do, so something has to change or I'm gonna look back on this and ask myself if we were supposed to be together.
To me, the most logical explanations are a.) She likes me but she's reluctant for several reasons, b.) She doesn't have feelings for me, instead she uses me to keep other guys at work off of her, or c.) She simply enjoys the friendship we have and doesn't want anything else. I'm leaning towards option B, but the only way to find out for sure is to appear somewhat distanced until something shifts in her behavior. I can't make it apparent that I'm 'distancing' myself because that will be like a slap in the face. Instead, I'm just gonna act as though she's starting to lose my attention. I want her to realize I'm not so interested in playing this game anymore, without seeming as though I
want her to notice that.
Two things can happen if I do this: 1.) If it's that she likes me but is reluctant, or if she's just my friend, she'll give me some kind of sign, if not completely reveal how she feels, because my lack of interest is making her self-conscience; or 2.) If I'm just a way to divert the grabby hands of other male co-workers, she'll look for some other toy to play with because I won't be quite so effective. Either way, I'll finally have an answer.
Basically, if I act a little more passive when she's getting all playful with me, I think she'll start to realize that something's changing, and regardless of her motives for sticking so close to me, her response to my slightly less enthusiastic behavior will reflect her feelings for me (or lack thereof).
Put pressure on her without seeming as though I intend to put pressure on her.
At this point, I'd rather lose her as a friend than ignore the possibility of making this into something more. The idea of actually 'being' with this girl is worth quite a lot to me.