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Why does everyone seem to think that "consent for each act" means asking for sex verbally every time? For me, it means that my SO has a green light for all action (except this situation, which is usually discussed beforehand), all the time, unless told otherwise at that specific time OR because of a medical issue that has been discussed beforehand.
I've gotten more "honey, I'm not in the mood/too tired/too sore/etc." from one guy I dated than he EVER got from me.
Having confirmation that everything is a-ok in the consent area does not require a permission slip when you're in a relationship. However, disregarding a "please, not right now" or other boundaries that were previously defined would just not be cool.
Edit: I'll put it this way: guys, would you be okay with your SO jamming her finger or a dildo up your ass anytime, all the time, even if it's lubed up? My guess is that for most of you, the answer is "no," and so you might understand the conditionality of certain acts a bit better when you see them in those terms.
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