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I understand the urge to say "nothing". Sometimes you are afraid it will hurt the other person if you tell them... or you just don't want to get into the argument you feel it will turn out to be... or sometimes you just don't want to talk about it!
However, as you said, it is lying and it can be hurtful to the person who is genuinely concerned.
My husband is one who says nothing CONSTANTLY. There are times I let it slide... you've got to choose your battles and all. Other times, particularly when I can feel that he is deeply troubled, I am very hurt that he won't share what he is feeling with me. If not me, who?
It not only hurts that he won't share.. but that he lies about the fact that there is anything bothering him at all. I'd much rather he say, "I'd rather not talk about it right now."
Or, better still, give a simple explanation of why he doesn't want to share. "I have a lot on my mind and I'd like to have some time to think it over before sharing."
At least that is honest.
I think your "solution" is to take this road... you already said you do it. Just avoid saying 'nothing' and don't worry about them being hurt because you won't share so long as you are honest with them when you answer their queries.
You have to be true to yourself and do what feels best to you. If that means keeping to yourself a bit when you're trying to work things out, then that is what you need to do and someone who cares about you might feel frustrated because they want to help you feel better but they will understand if you explain to them that you need that time for yourself.
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