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Summer parties and gatherings, I'd echo that. Also i've met many cool people including beautiful, athletic women in rec sports clubs. most bigger cities have sports club organizations such as flag football or ultimate frisbee, and many of them are co-ed (most require a certain amount of females on the team). you can sign up solo and be placed on a team, and you'll have some fun and strike up a report in a very non-pressuring setting. I've also only very rarely had any luck at the bar, but at parties and through the stuff I just talked about, my success rate was exponentially higher.
Also, if you want to improve your chances, and you *must* go to a bar, bring a female friend as a wingman, just don't get too snuggly with her or you'll send the other girlies running. Or you can go there with her and end up starting something with her....
last but not least - do not act like a pussy-hound. If you come off as really desperate to get laid or whatever, you'll drive people away. Best to just relax, be your cool self and let the good times roll. We've all been there, even if people won't admit it and it does suck, but people can pick up on desperation and it sends them running.
a last thought- if you don't have any specific interests that you are somewhat knowledgeable about, come up with some. Give yourself a few conversation starters "on tap" about local happenings, a couple of good stories about something funny that happened to you, etc. plus be sure to focus the conversation on the other person whenever possible b/c people love to talk about themselves.
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