Confused about my husband's sexual desires
SO, a little history....I am 35, my husband is 23, we met at work and have had our ups and downs, but we are now married, have a 10 month old son and are now expecting twins.
We've always had an amazing sex life. There are things that he has confessed to wanting (before we got hitched) that I was not comfortable with (inviting others into our bed). He agreed that he would rather be with me the rest of his life than to have a few random fantasies come true without me.
Now, I know that he masturbates........A LOT! I've told him many times that I don't have too much of a problem with that. I would just prefer if he try me first. Now, I am tired more and go to bed pretty early, but that shouldn't stop him. In fact, sometimes, it hasn't. I've woken up a few times to him fucking me. Lately, he has been rather ruff, again not a real problem per say, but my cervix is a little tender now days. I think I've only turned him down a few times when I was super tired. And I DO know that sometimes men just need to have a quick whack now and then.
Now on to my point.....with this masturbation, he goes out back at night and uses his phone to (what he told me) look at random videos. (I've asked him several times what he masturbates to so that I could know what he likes. Always says just videos) Well, I've looked at the web history on his cell phone before and saw these erotic stories, a few of them were about incest and/or rape. I asked him about it and he just shrugged it off saying that he was just looking around at random stuff.
Last night I got up to ask him something and of course he was outside working himself over. When I opened the door, he immediately hid his phone. I asked what he was watching and he replied "random videos". I told him I wanted to watch him continue (and he did) but he didn't pick his phone back up to watch his video. He told me he didn't need it since I was in front of him. I thought I would help out a bit and pulled out my tits and started playing with them and putting them in his face. He enjoyed it and we proceeded to go inside to fuck. After that was done, I went back to bed and he went outside to smoke. I got up about 20 minutes later because I was nauseous. I went looking for him and he was outside fucking himself again. I kind of hid a little bit waiting and he went on for at least 20 minutes (looking at something on his phone the whole time). I think he saw me walk past the window because he stopped and came to the door. I told him that I got sick and got up for a drink (which I did). So he shuffled me back to bed.
I fell asleep and woke to the sound of the garage door. He was taking out the trash like I asked. I figured he would be coming to bed soon and I must have dozed off again, but woke later to find he wasn't in bed yet. I peeked out of our bedroom window and he was at it AGAIN. I waited and I watched. He was going to town and looking at his phone again. After about 15 minutes of jerking himself he came and then sat down to have his smoke. I told myself that after he went to work today, I would check the history on his phone to see what got him so hot.
I just finished and ALL there was were those erotic stories of incest and incestuous rape. I checked further back and that is all he has been looking at for a while. Daddy fucking his 15 years old daughter, a son raping his mom and then him with his 4 brothers raping their sister.....things like that.
Now, my question is....Does he have secret desires about his Mom or sister? If one or both of the babies I'm carrying ends up being a girl: Do I fear that in 15 years, he will want to fuck her? I don't think he would actually go through with something like that, but just the desire to creeps me out quite a bit.
I have played rape with him before, but that was kind of my idea. He never brought it up when we talked. It's always been about having another man and/or woman with us for him, but he knows that won't happen.
Is he searching for a new outlet? Do I call him out on it? Do I sit back and do nothing? I'm not sure what I should do. I don't have a problem with him masturbating (especially when I'm tired), but when he shoos me away because he would rather read incest stories, it does bother me....
Any advise on how to handle this situation would be great.
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