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I didn't see anywhere in there what you want. Do you really love this girl? We don't know your background with her, so it's hard to grasp why you'd stay in this situation if you've only known her for a very short period of time before starting to date for this month.
If you've known her for years and really think there may be a future with her, I'd just let her know how you feel, however that may be. When she reciprocates in telling you what she's dealing with, you be sure to let her know you understand she's having a hard time right now.
From a 3rd party perspective, the relationship she has with this other guy seems a little silly; but obviously it isn't to her, so if you have any interest in this girl (in my opinion) you need to support her while she works through her feelings.
Although, I'm not into the 'still friends' with ex's, but that's one you may want to tackle once she's had some time to emotionally stabilize herself again, assuming you two do end up staying together. During this process, she may stop talking to him for the most part anyway, but you'll have to play it by ear. No doubt the best way for her to get over the guy would be to cut off communication with him, but is that feasible for you to ask in your relationship right now? That's up to you.
All in all, "assistance" is not the way to go. A woman, generally, does not want a man's help. They want our support and understanding--they do not, no matter how many times we think they're asking for it, they do not want us to *fix* things for them. At least not social things. So if you want to be with this girl, convey to her how you *feel* (very important) and support her while she figures out her emotions.
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