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genuinegirly · 06-09-2010, 03:19 PM

I'm a fan of tradition and ceremony, so...

Our wedding ceremony involved a full Catholic mass, a chapel-length veil, and a jolly old priest. The only non-traditional component we threw in was my father walking down the aisle to "Jupiter" (not exactly a traditional wedding march, nor a theme frequently heard in a church, and the only reflection of our obsession with science fiction). My father walking me down the aisle brought a window of calm in an otherwise hectic morning. It was incredibly special to me, and I wouldn't trade that experience for the world. We had a flower girl and a ring bearer, a junior groomsman with a junior bridesmaid, etc. What started out as a very small wedding party turned into a large, happy crowd a month before the wedding. The unity candle was another moment that was very special, as was the blessing from our parents, and walking hand-in-hand with Tt with a small bouquet to place at the feet of Mary. I look back at our (amazingly beautiful, professional) photos and wish that somehow those precious moments could have possibly been captured better. They seem so incomplete, as though thousands of cameras would have been necessary to capture the intensity of the hour. At the reception, the daddy-daughter dance and first dance were one in a traditional style that I had never encountered - I began dancing with Tt to Frank Sinatra, Daddy surprised me by sneaking the mic from the DJ and asking Tt if he could cut-in. The lonely groom was then approached by his mother, and they danced alongside my father and I. The dancers on the floor gradually grew to the rest of the wedding party, who then asked others to dance. It was unpracticed, but moved as smoothly as a well-choreographed dream.

While with my own wedding I wouldn't have considered cutting out any of the traditions you've mentioned, I am a firm believer that a bride and a groom should make the wedding entirely their own. Your choice to omit certain components of the ceremony and the reception is a reflection of your unity. I doubt I would notice anything was missing, as long as the day flows at a natural pace and you two are happy.

06-09-2010, 03:19 PM	#20 (permalink)
genuinegirly Eat your vegetables Super Moderator Location: Arabidopsis-ville	I'm a fan of tradition and ceremony, so... Our wedding ceremony involved a full Catholic mass, a chapel-length veil, and a jolly old priest. The only non-traditional component we threw in was my father walking down the aisle to "Jupiter" (not exactly a traditional wedding march, nor a theme frequently heard in a church, and the only reflection of our obsession with science fiction). My father walking me down the aisle brought a window of calm in an otherwise hectic morning. It was incredibly special to me, and I wouldn't trade that experience for the world. We had a flower girl and a ring bearer, a junior groomsman with a junior bridesmaid, etc. What started out as a very small wedding party turned into a large, happy crowd a month before the wedding. The unity candle was another moment that was very special, as was the blessing from our parents, and walking hand-in-hand with Tt with a small bouquet to place at the feet of Mary. I look back at our (amazingly beautiful, professional) photos and wish that somehow those precious moments could have possibly been captured better. They seem so incomplete, as though thousands of cameras would have been necessary to capture the intensity of the hour. At the reception, the daddy-daughter dance and first dance were one in a traditional style that I had never encountered - I began dancing with Tt to Frank Sinatra, Daddy surprised me by sneaking the mic from the DJ and asking Tt if he could cut-in. The lonely groom was then approached by his mother, and they danced alongside my father and I. The dancers on the floor gradually grew to the rest of the wedding party, who then asked others to dance. It was unpracticed, but moved as smoothly as a well-choreographed dream. While with my own wedding I wouldn't have considered cutting out any of the traditions you've mentioned, I am a firm believer that a bride and a groom should make the wedding entirely their own. Your choice to omit certain components of the ceremony and the reception is a reflection of your unity. I doubt I would notice anything was missing, as long as the day flows at a natural pace and you two are happy. __________________ "Sometimes I have to remember that things are brought to me for a reason, either for my own lessons or for the benefit of others." Cynthetiq "violence is no more or less real than non-violence." roachboy Last edited by genuinegirly; 06-09-2010 at 03:36 PM..