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Well, my point was I don't hate my life.
It was by realizing how much my life didn't suck that I overcame my jealousy. I may not have had the exact things or being I coveted, but I had other things I was really proud of.
And to the extent that I couldn't overcome a particular bout of envy, it pointed me in the direction of something I wanted to change about my life.
To spell it out, look at how much of the jealousy is just knee-jerk habit, and how much is actually deep-seated desire for something you don't have. If it's something you actually want, figure out how to get it instead of blaming someone else for having it. If you think she's prettier, work on your self-esteem. If you think she's more confident, do things to improve your confidence. Jealousy is normal, but unless you use it to point to actions you can take to have the life you want, you're just being a victim.
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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