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Starkizzer · 06-09-2010, 09:55 AM

We didn't have any dancing at my wedding no parent/kid dance and we didn't do a first dance either. Smrt can not dance either and looked green every time I suggested lessons. I do not know how his mom dances, but my dad has had double knee replacement and now has calcium deposits on the backs of his heels, he had to walk me down the aisle with a cane.

We did do the garter and bouquet toss. I didn't really want to as there were only about 6 people eligible to participate. My mom made us do them because "people were expecting us to". It was kind of sad and lame but we did it anyway. It didn't kill us but I knew it was important to my mom and our guests so I did it. Also, smrt really wanted to have the keepsake garter, silly boy.

However, the big thing for me WAS to have my dad give me away. I knew this was important for him and I don't view it as him "giving me away" I viewed it more as my dad having the honor to walk his daughter down the aisle on one of her most important days and being there beside me to support me. I don't think the smile on his face could have been any bigger. For me this was important because my dad was not able to be around much when I was a kid due to him diving truck to send money home to my grams to support us. He has always felt guilty for missing important moments in my childhood so I make sure that he is a part of all my important moments as an adult.

He was so excited to do this one thing he even carved himself a new cane out of wood so he had a nice one to walk me down the aisle with.

We also did away with the groom not seeing the bride before the wedding tradition. He had seen me dress and me in my dress long before the wedding. Plus we did a lot of our wedding photos before the ceremony so that after we could spend time with each other and our guests. We didn't have any of the traditional cheesey wedding songs, instead we played a few songs that meant something to us and the rest was Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin, in my opinion, PERFECT wedding music.

The wedding party walked down the aisle to music that SecretMethod pointed me to (Thank you!) I hate the traditional wedding march so much that at the rehearsal my dad and I hummed the death march as we walked down. So instead I found one I liked better, Weeding March from Dalarna in Sweden.

I would not have change anything about the day, it goes by so quickly that everything seems like a blur, so even the traditions that I didn't want to do seemed like mere seconds in a dream to me now.

Perhaps, ask your family how important some of these traditions are and pick a few for them.

06-09-2010, 09:55 AM	#11 (permalink)
Starkizzer Hi floor! Make me a samwich. Location: Ontario (in the stray cat complex)	We didn't have any dancing at my wedding no parent/kid dance and we didn't do a first dance either. Smrt can not dance either and looked green every time I suggested lessons. I do not know how his mom dances, but my dad has had double knee replacement and now has calcium deposits on the backs of his heels, he had to walk me down the aisle with a cane. We did do the garter and bouquet toss. I didn't really want to as there were only about 6 people eligible to participate. My mom made us do them because "people were expecting us to". It was kind of sad and lame but we did it anyway. It didn't kill us but I knew it was important to my mom and our guests so I did it. Also, smrt really wanted to have the keepsake garter, silly boy. However, the big thing for me WAS to have my dad give me away. I knew this was important for him and I don't view it as him "giving me away" I viewed it more as my dad having the honor to walk his daughter down the aisle on one of her most important days and being there beside me to support me. I don't think the smile on his face could have been any bigger. For me this was important because my dad was not able to be around much when I was a kid due to him diving truck to send money home to my grams to support us. He has always felt guilty for missing important moments in my childhood so I make sure that he is a part of all my important moments as an adult. He was so excited to do this one thing he even carved himself a new cane out of wood so he had a nice one to walk me down the aisle with. We also did away with the groom not seeing the bride before the wedding tradition. He had seen me dress and me in my dress long before the wedding. Plus we did a lot of our wedding photos before the ceremony so that after we could spend time with each other and our guests. We didn't have any of the traditional cheesey wedding songs, instead we played a few songs that meant something to us and the rest was Frank Sinatra and Dean Martin, in my opinion, PERFECT wedding music. The wedding party walked down the aisle to music that SecretMethod pointed me to (Thank you!) I hate the traditional wedding march so much that at the rehearsal my dad and I hummed the death march as we walked down. So instead I found one I liked better, Weeding March from Dalarna in Sweden. I would not have change anything about the day, it goes by so quickly that everything seems like a blur, so even the traditions that I didn't want to do seemed like mere seconds in a dream to me now. Perhaps, ask your family how important some of these traditions are and pick a few for them. __________________ Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey Last edited by Starkizzer; 06-09-2010 at 10:08 AM..